Having a threesome for the first time is an exciting experience but it can also prove daunting, especially if you aren’t familiar with the etiquette of such situations.

What you firstly need to remember is that everyone is there to have fun. No-one should feel left out or that they are not being included in the fun. So, for example, if there are two ladies using a double-ended dildo, perhaps the man could be invited to get involved in some way too. Or, if there are two men having sex and the third feels left out, a position (excuse the pun) needs to be created for him in the situation.

Also, it’s crucial to lay down ground rules at the beginning, in case anyone takes it too far. For example, if you’re indulging in an S&M session or are using bondage, you might want to introduce a safe word. It might also be that you decide who does what with whom in advance; rather than just deciding on the spot. This all depends on each of your individual tastes and is different in each situation.

Do remember as well that none of you should be overly intoxicated during the act, as the loss of inhibitions caused by alcohol could cause one party to do something they regret. Of course, you might all need a glass of wine to ease your nerves, but apart from that, steer clear.

In addition, each party should protect themselves from any sexually-transmitted diseases or falling pregnant. This means condoms on at all times during  vaginal or anal intercourse and, to feel particularly safe, during oral sex too. If one of you walks away from the experience with something unexpected, it could ruin the relationship forever. Plus, it’s only polite to offer up a clean environment for your sexual partners, so be sure to have a soapy shower beforehand.